Writing

  • When Your Body Betrays You

    You are your most merciless critic. Intellectually, we all understand this. “Would you treat your best friend the way you’re treating yourself right now?” Of course not. But also… fuck you. Because I’m pretty sure my best friend would never treat ME this way, either. It’s hard enough moving through the world when your body does what it’s…

  • How To Talk About Sex

    Here’s a question for you. How often do you talk about sex? Not, talk DURING sex, or talk about HAVING sex. How often do you have meaningful, involved discussions with your partner about your sex life? About what’s working for you, and what’s not? If it’s less than once a month, it’s not often enough….

  • Managing Connection Overload (Even When It Hurts)

    How do you define connection? Well, according to Merriam Webster, connection is: the act of connecting (well, duh); a causal or logical relation or sequence; a contextual relation or association; a relation of personal intimacy; a means of communication or transport; a person connected with another via marriage, kinship or common interest; a political, professional, or…

  • Snowballs of Gratitude

    You know how shit snowballs? How, when one thing goes wrong in your life, EVERYTHING goes wrong? You don’t just sludge the engine block in your car, you also lose your job, and your house burns down in the same month. Our relationships are like that too. We don’t just stop having sex one day….

  • Cunnilingus 101

    I saw this meme on Facebook the other day…. Here’s some hard math for you. It’s estimated that no more than 30% of women are able to achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. For at least 70% of us then, that means that some other means of stimulation is required. The options are endless–manual clitoral…