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		<title>Not everything is for everyone. And that&#8217;s okay.</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Mar 2022 00:06:13 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[One of the things I’ve noticed recently on my journey to an autism diagnosis is that my filter for controversy is completely and irrevocably broken.&#160;When I worry that something I write or share is going to be controversial is when I get the MOST vocal support from folks saying, “yes, me too.”&#160;Instead, it’s the posts...]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>One of the things I’ve noticed recently on my journey to an autism diagnosis is that my filter for controversy is completely and irrevocably broken.</p><p>When I worry that something I write or share is going to be controversial is when I get the MOST vocal support from folks saying, “yes, me too.”</p><p>Instead, it’s the posts that I think are fine that frequently generate the most ire. I just shared a funny meme, and suddenly the villagers are in my DMs with pitchforks.</p><p>This post falls somewhere in the middle of that Venn Diagram conceptually.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8ab8e03b" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4132" alt="" data-id="4132" width="438" data-init-width="400" height="287" data-init-height="262" title="528ba048372e5" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/528ba048372e5-400x262.jpeg" data-width="438" data-height="287" data-css="tve-u-17f8ab904fe" style="" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/528ba048372e5-400x262.jpeg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/528ba048372e5-150x98.jpeg 150w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/528ba048372e5.jpeg 653w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 438px) 100vw, 438px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Because things that seem perfectly obvious to me are often...not obvious to other people? Huh.</p><p>And so, it’s from a place of curiosity that I would like to talk about this.</p><p>It’s just that I’ve been wondering, when did we decide that everything has to be for everybody?</p><p>When did we decide that if I don’t like something, you can’t like it either?</p><p>Even worse, when did we decide that if I like something you don’t, that makes me a bad person?</p><p>Like, to the point of condemnation?</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8ab9c5d8" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4133" alt="" data-id="4133" width="493" data-init-width="376" height="176" data-init-height="134" title="download" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/download.jpg" data-width="493" data-height="176" data-css="tve-u-17f8ab9dc83" style="" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/download.jpg 376w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/download-150x53.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 493px) 100vw, 493px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>I’m not interested in being the devil’s advocate. That guy already has spectacular attorneys on retainer.</p><p>If you have a shitty opinion, you have a shitty opinion.</p><p>But when did we decide that I should castigate you repeatedly about your shitty opinion? Instead of what seems like a much more pleasant alternative of just...ignoring the fuck out of you?</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8aba7396" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4139" alt="" data-id="4139" width="428" data-init-width="1071" height="499" data-init-height="1249" title="a7b1bd7e108b709f5250985ab200dac1a617c23477f05360a8a98ebff8b43dc0_1" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/a7b1bd7e108b709f5250985ab200dac1a617c23477f05360a8a98ebff8b43dc0_1.jpg" data-width="428" data-height="499" data-css="tve-u-17f8aba9d7c" style="" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/a7b1bd7e108b709f5250985ab200dac1a617c23477f05360a8a98ebff8b43dc0_1.jpg 1071w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/a7b1bd7e108b709f5250985ab200dac1a617c23477f05360a8a98ebff8b43dc0_1-343x400.jpg 343w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/a7b1bd7e108b709f5250985ab200dac1a617c23477f05360a8a98ebff8b43dc0_1-878x1024.jpg 878w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/a7b1bd7e108b709f5250985ab200dac1a617c23477f05360a8a98ebff8b43dc0_1-129x150.jpg 129w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/a7b1bd7e108b709f5250985ab200dac1a617c23477f05360a8a98ebff8b43dc0_1-768x896.jpg 768w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 428px) 100vw, 428px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><p>I asked on social media yesterday about people’s special interests.</p><p>Chickens, gardens, true crime, makeup, the Titanic, and one Ph.D. in Pearl Jam, among other things.</p><p>My only interest in chickens is eating them, and I regularly offer my radio some cheese to go with that whine when I hear Eddie Vedder on the CLASSIC ROCK STATION. Then I rapidly change the channel and cry about how old I am.</p><p>And that’s fine.</p><p>In the abstract.</p><p>When we get down to specifics though, will you still not care? (And will you still be a fan of my work? We’ll see.)</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8abc782c" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4134" alt="" data-id="4134" width="446" data-init-width="400" height="398" data-init-height="357" title="e99" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/e99-400x357.jpg" data-width="446" data-height="398" data-css="tve-u-17f8abc8b1c" style="" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/e99-400x357.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/e99-1024x914.jpg 1024w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/e99-150x134.jpg 150w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/e99-768x685.jpg 768w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/e99.jpg 1440w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 446px) 100vw, 446px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Because I’m not canceling Spotify just because some people think Joe Rogan is credible.</p><p>He’s a professional interviewer. Arguably a great one. And that’s it.</p><p>He’s so good at playing dumb that people just CAN’T WAIT to tell him all the ways that they’re smarter than him and everyone else, in such detail that they tell on themselves.</p><p>That doesn’t make any of Joe’s PERSONAL opinions credible. I mean, I watched Fear Factor. I remember.</p><p>I’m also certainly not fucking listening—that shit lasts for hours. I don’t have time for that bullshit.</p><p>But it’s not my problem if people refuse to recognize that it’s a radio show.</p><p>And, it’s not really Joe’s problem, either?</p><p>Where exactly is his responsibility for other people’s behavior?</p><p>This is the crux of the parasocial relationship.</p><p>Despite our perceived relationship with someone, they have no actual obligation or responsibility for our behavior.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8abe0aef" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4135" alt="" data-id="4135" width="434" data-init-width="300" height="312" data-init-height="216" title="harry-potter-parasocial-300x216" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/harry-potter-parasocial-300x216-1.png" data-width="434" data-height="312" data-css="tve-u-17f8abe2b07" style="" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/harry-potter-parasocial-300x216-1.png 300w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/harry-potter-parasocial-300x216-1-150x108.png 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 434px) 100vw, 434px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Hey, and speaking of Harry Potter...I don’t care if JK Rowling is a TERF, either.</p><p>We talk about this on <a href="https://latchkeymovies.com/">Latchkey Movies</a> regularly, but at the end of the day, it’s in everyone’s best interest to separate the art from the artist if you can.</p><p>What I’ve learned after THREE YEARS next month (!!!) of talking about kid’s movies is that most creators are honestly terrible people. And I just don’t have the energy to tell my kids they can’t watch their favorite movies because the actors doing the voices suck.</p><p>If you need an example of this, I encourage you to listen to our review of <a href="https://latchkeymovies.com/kung-fu-panda/">Kung Fu Panda</a>. We barely even talk about the movie.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8abf4475" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4138" alt="" data-id="4138" width="525" data-init-width="400" height="394" data-init-height="300" title="Untitled" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Untitled-400x300.png" data-width="525" data-height="394" data-css="tve-u-17f8abf5d27" style="" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Untitled-400x300.png 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Untitled-1024x768.png 1024w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Untitled-150x113.png 150w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Untitled-768x576.png 768w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Untitled-1536x1152.png 1536w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/Untitled.png 1548w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 525px) 100vw, 525px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>And this both is and isn’t about cancellation.</p><p>In fact, this meme is particularly ironic, given that both Louis CK and R. Kelly are STILL getting airtime. Fuck, even child molesters are trying to sneak in with new branding. They call themselves minor-attracted persons now.</p><p>So, canceled by whom? For how long?</p><p>And, here’s the part that’s key for me. To what end?</p><p>Cui bono? (That’s Latin for who benefits.)</p><p>Who benefits from your outrage???</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8ac06385"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4137" alt="" data-id="4137" width="600" data-init-width="600" height="470" data-init-height="470" title="I-WAS-TOLD-iu3mnx" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/I-WAS-TOLD-iu3mnx.jpg" data-width="600" data-height="470" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/I-WAS-TOLD-iu3mnx.jpg 600w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/I-WAS-TOLD-iu3mnx-400x313.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/I-WAS-TOLD-iu3mnx-150x118.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 600px) 100vw, 600px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>It’s also important to note that we all have personal lines in the sand. If JK’s trans views are an insurmountable problem for you, that’s fine.</p><p>I do my best to boycott China. I skipped the Olympics. I refuse to use TikTok.</p><p>Sometimes, I do the exhausting mental gymnastics of buying something from WalMart because it was manufactured in Vietnam, versus buying something on Amazon because it was made in China.</p><p>And so we’re clear, all of these options are shitty.</p><p>I mean, maybe these guys benefit.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8ae788c4" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4136" alt="" data-id="4136" width="443" data-init-width="335" height="529" data-init-height="400" title="IMG_5575.JPG" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5575.JPG-335x400.jpg" data-width="443" data-height="529" data-css="tve-u-17f8ae7acb3" style="" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5575.JPG-335x400.jpg 335w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5575.JPG-125x150.jpg 125w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5575.JPG.jpg 736w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 443px) 100vw, 443px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>And if that’s the case, you know what the solution is, right?</p><p>Keep your head down, stay in your fucking lane, and take that shit BACK.</p><p>Some examples of actual self-made billionaires?</p><p>Oprah. Taylor Swift. Tony Robbins. Beyoncé. Kanye.</p><p>I’m not a huge fan of all of them, either, but again, happy to take what works for me (writing this to the 10-minute version of All Too Well on repeat), and leave the rest.</p><p>And when I say leave it, I&nbsp;<em>mean</em>&nbsp;leave it.</p><p>I have almost 2000 words on Kanye’s bipolar breakdown, and why his personal actions are so damaging to mental health care at large. It’s probably a good essay.</p><p>But it’s punching down at someone’s mental illness, instead of doing my own work. It doesn’t matter if he’s famous.</p><p>Because I HAVE been there. And I have a choice. So I let it go.</p><p>Not everything is for everybody.</p><p>And it shouldn’t be.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17f8b0a5a38" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4140" alt="" data-id="4140" width="566" data-init-width="828" height="514" data-init-height="752" title="IMG_5558" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5558.jpg" data-width="566" data-height="514" data-css="tve-u-17f8b0a6dc9" style="" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5558.jpg 828w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5558-400x363.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5558-150x136.jpg 150w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/IMG_5558-768x698.jpg 768w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 566px) 100vw, 566px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Listen. I don’t ask often, but if you liked this one, do me a solid and share? It’ll offset all the folks who got mad and left.</p></div><div class="tcb_flag" style="display: none"></div>
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		<title>Great. So you&#8217;ve got an ADHD or autism diagnosis. Now what?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 21 Feb 2022 20:49:00 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[There’s a part of diagnosis that seems magical.&#160;All these years, you’ve been searching for answers, and NOW you finally have one.&#160;Certainly, the neurotypical view of a diagnosis is that you have it now, and you’re cured, right?&#160;We do it too. We tend to put very unreasonable expectations on the weight of a diagnosis, and what...]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>There’s a part of diagnosis that seems magical.</p><p>All these years, you’ve been searching for answers, and NOW you finally have one.</p><p>Certainly, the neurotypical view of a diagnosis is that you have it now, and you’re cured, right?</p><p>We do it too. We tend to put very unreasonable expectations on the weight of a diagnosis, and what it actually means for us.</p><p>If you’ve been looking for meds, then a diagnosis is essential.</p><p>But even without medication, for a lot of us, that diagnosis is seen as <em>validating</em>. “Here,” you think. “Finally I know what’s wrong with me.”</p><p>Yeah. So....about that.</p><p>After many years of doing my best to ignore my health, I had a personal come to Jesus talk with myself, and we agreed to start making ourself a priority.</p><p>In December, I started EMDR therapy. I got a trauma coach. Also on the list for this year: Hellerwork sessions, an integrative physician, maybe a walk or two. Don’t wanna overdo it.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-180867237ef"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4354" alt="Man lying on the ground with the caption &quot;I wish I could outsource my exercise.&quot;" data-id="4354" width="425" data-init-width="425" height="237" data-init-height="237" title="outsourceexercise" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/outsourceexercise.png" data-width="425" data-height="237" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/outsourceexercise.png 425w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/outsourceexercise-400x223.png 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/outsourceexercise-150x84.png 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 425px) 100vw, 425px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>I also started thinking about looking for a dentist. I have not yet made progress.</p><p>My teeth...are a real problem.</p><p>When I was 12, I was sexually assaulted by my orthodontist. Then, as is so common for survivors, I suffered a secondary trauma when no one believed that it happened.</p><p>The core memory I have of this whole encounter is not actually the assault. I remember, but it’s not what haunts me. It’s the look on my father’s face as he screamed that I was a liar. The way he turned purple, the spit raining down on my face as he got closer and closer. The way that vein popped out in his forehead, and that I could see his pulse in it.</p><p>I’ve hung my entire sense of self-worth on that moment for decades now. That I was not worthy of being believed.</p><p>That belief has colored years of experiences with medical professionals, both in my unwillingness to see them, or advocate for myself when necessary.</p><p>I have not seen a dentist in almost 25 years.</p><p>My teeth are not in terrible shape I don’t think. Obviously, I’m just guessing. My gums, on the other hand. Well.</p><p>I knew that going to the dentist would involve a lot of work for me. The least of which is actually finding a dentist.</p><p>The real problem is coming to terms with myself.</p><p>Because somewhere in this whole process of getting right with myself, it’s come to my attention that I am probably autistic. So in addition to all that other stuff up there, I am now working on getting myself yet another formal diagnosis.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-1808672ad63"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4355" alt="Heavy lidded kitten with the caption &quot;Dude... Wait, what?&quot;" data-id="4355" width="597" data-init-width="597" height="446" data-init-height="446" title="wait_what" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/wait_what.jpg" data-width="597" data-height="446" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/wait_what.jpg 597w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/wait_what-400x299.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/wait_what-150x112.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 597px) 100vw, 597px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>I cannot tell a lie, this is a real record scratch moment for me.</p><p>My daughter was diagnosed 15 years ago. Surely somewhere along the way, I should have seen something and said...”huh. That’s interesting.”</p><p>(Narrator: She did not, in fact, notice anything about herself. Said it was her husband’s genes allllll those years.)</p><p>I’ll be honest, the fact that I’ve been oblivious this entire time is a dead fucking giveaway.&nbsp;</p><p>And yet, here we are.</p><p>So many of the things that I’ve believed about myself for so many years have started to unravel.</p><p>The unraveling is not pretty.</p><p>It requires an infinite amount of grace for myself—that I AM, in fact, worthy.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-18086732c60"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4356" alt="Caption &quot;Because sometimes f*ck you is sysnonymous with: I am worthy. -Thug Unicorn by Tanya Markul&quot;" data-id="4356" width="564" data-init-width="564" height="564" data-init-height="564" title="worthy" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/worthy.jpg" data-width="564" data-height="564" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/worthy.jpg 564w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/worthy-400x400.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/worthy-150x150.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 564px) 100vw, 564px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>You see, I’ve been playing the diagnosis dance for more than 25 years now. I was 14 when I was diagnosed as Bipolar I with rapid cycling. I was deep in mania at the time, which is a state of mind that is difficult to describe to people who haven’t experienced it. But it is quite delightful. I believed I could do whatever I wanted, and so I did. I never slept, I rarely ate, and I felt like a hummingbird.</p><p>My father just called it “out of control, and needs to be fixed.”</p><p>So I started with Lithium, which made me suicidal (they no longer prescribe this to teenagers at all). Being suicidal was, of course, also my fault.</p><p>That’s when the lectures started. Hours of being forced into an overstuffed floral chair in the living room while my father and stepmother proceeded to tell me everything that was wrong with me. I can still tell you exactly what those flowers looked like.</p><p>Then I moved on to a delightful cocktail of Wellbutrin, Xanax, Zoloft. They used to hand out mind-altering drugs like candy. And they did indeed make me a mindless zombie. Even my father was alarmed.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-180867394e2"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4357" alt="Boromir Eye is Ever Watchful pose with the caption &quot;One does not simply take mind altering drugs without altering ones mind&quot;" data-id="4357" width="610" data-init-width="610" height="363" data-init-height="363" title="BoromirMindAltering" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/BoromirMindAltering.png" data-width="610" data-height="363" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/BoromirMindAltering.png 610w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/BoromirMindAltering-400x238.png 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/BoromirMindAltering-150x89.png 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 610px) 100vw, 610px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>But you can’t just quit those kinds of drugs cold turkey, so as I weaned off of them, I got a little piece of myself back.</p><p>And <em>then</em> I started running away from home.</p><p>My tragic flaw here (and I look back on this now and say, OF COURSE YOU’RE AUTISTIC, DUH) is that I kept going back to school.</p><p>Y’all, I had fucking plans. I was going to go to the Naval Academy at Annapolis. I had already secured my congressional recommendation letter by knocking on hundreds of doors for Mark Udall’s House campaign.</p><p>I did all that while also swimming competitively, working the costuming department in the theatre, and maintaining an A average in honors classes. When I tell you mania is amazing, I mean it.</p><p>So I would run away, stay with a friend, and then eventually, the truancy officer at school would take me home.</p><p>And that’s when the physical abuse started. Mostly, it was my stepmom, but I was pretty mouthy, according to my father.</p><p>That was also my fault.</p><p>So my father declared me “beyond control of parent,” and sent me to live in a group home for six months.</p><p>I begged the court for emancipation.</p><p>And I was denied, based on my “questionable mental health status and need for oversight.”</p><p>Because, once again, I was probably lying, and not doing anything about it was easier.</p><p>And just like that, everything was over. I was unable to take my finals, so my grades tanked. All my plans, even if they were insane, were gone in a second.</p><p>After that was Depakote, which caused me to gain a ridiculous amount of weight in a short period of time.</p><p>And when I returned home, fat and docile was also my fault, because just look at how expensive the grocery bill is getting. I don’t believe my two preteen brothers ever heard about the increase in costs, though.</p><p>When I was 17, I was able to make my escape. My mom was finally out of prison (that’s a story for another time, y’all) and I could leave my father’s supervision. He was more than happy to be rid of me.</p><p>I went to a different psychiatrist, who was deeply unhappy about my med history to date, and prescribed me a low dose of Seroquel.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-1808673fa21"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4358" alt="Snow white stretching and yawning with the text &quot;Sleeps 12 hours. Me: Need Nap.&quot;" data-id="4358" width="694" data-init-width="750" height="691" data-init-height="747" title="SnowWhiteNap" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/SnowWhiteNap.jpeg" data-width="694" data-height="691" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/SnowWhiteNap.jpeg 750w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/SnowWhiteNap-400x398.jpeg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/SnowWhiteNap-150x150.jpeg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 694px) 100vw, 694px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Ten hours of sleep a night made me a different person.</p><p>But it still didn’t solve my problems.</p><p>Because around this same time, I started waking up every morning and vomiting. I’d throw up once, sometimes twice, and then be fine for the day.</p><p>I can’t tell you how many pregnancy tests I took, despite the fact that I was not sexually active. (As an adult, I know this is just procedure. But then, it felt like still more people telling me that I was lying.)</p><p>Doctor after doctor insisted there was nothing wrong with me, and it must all be in my head.</p><p>In the end, more than three years later, after it turned out that I was finally pregnant, I got a diagnosis of Generalized Anxiety Disorder.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-18086745b7a"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4362" alt="Man pointing up as if someone has a good point with the caption &quot;Anxiety: What if this happens? Me: But it won't. Anxiety: But what if it does? Me: You've got me there&quot;" data-id="4362" width="578" data-init-width="578" height="540" data-init-height="540" title="YouveGotMeThere" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/YouveGotMeThere.jpg" data-width="578" data-height="540" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/YouveGotMeThere.jpg 578w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/YouveGotMeThere-400x374.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/YouveGotMeThere-150x140.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 578px) 100vw, 578px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>A lot of you took our Sensory Survey. (If you didn’t, <a href="https://sensorysurvey.paperform.co/">you can find it here</a>. I’m not going anywhere.) Almost 80% of you said that you were diagnosed with or had self-diagnosed anxiety. If I had to guess, I’d say at least another 10% of you waffled about whether to check the box or not.</p><p>More than anything else, it’s probably our anxiety that brings us together.</p><p>And here’s where we get back to worthiness.</p><p>Because what else is anxiety but doubt in our own self-worth? Our ability to make decisions for ourselves? To know, with a high degree of certainty, that we can handle whatever life is throwing at us?</p><p>To believe that I have value. That the work I do has value.</p><p>For so many people, these things come easily.</p><p>But if you are neurodiverse, with or without a diagnosis, with parenting from terrible to just misunderstood, worthiness has a profound weight to it, because we so rarely have felt it.</p><p>Instead, we mostly walk around feeling like we’re missing something.</p><p>And that it’s our fault.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>This means that when it comes to defining worthiness, we have to do it for ourselves.</p><p>Because in every way that matters, neurodiversity is the anchor of my life.</p><p>It is who I am.</p><p>It is how I earn a living.</p><p>For me, it has become a gift.</p><p>But it’s one I’ve spent most of my life learning how to integrate.</p><p>And, as it turns out, it will <em>continue</em> to be the work of a lifetime. Mine and yours.</p><p>I will never have this all figured out, apparently.&nbsp;</p><p>Every time I think I do, there’s a new wrench in the works.</p><p>Partially that’s because worthiness doesn’t have any pat answers.</p><p>Do you deserve it? Do I? According to whom? Does a god or gods or the universe have anything to do with it? Is worth inherent, or is it earned?</p><p>That’s not even touching its potential relationships with love, money, sex, children, race, gender, and an infinite number of other places where the concept of worthiness intersects.</p><p>And these are heavy fucking questions.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-18086751341"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4363" alt="Title: The Big Questions. Image split into four sections as follows; Section 1 is an image of the galaxy with the caption &quot;Are we alone in the universe?&quot; Section two is a man standing facing blinds silhouetted with the caption &quot;What's the meaning of life?&quot; Section three is an image of a bride and groom, hands clasped in front in the shape of a heart with the caption &quot;Are soulmates real?&quot; and the last section is a billboard with the caption &quot;Do regular dogs see police dogs and think Oh No It's a Cop?&quot;" data-id="4363" width="694" data-init-width="766" height="696" data-init-height="768" title="BigQuestions" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/BigQuestions.jpg" data-width="694" data-height="696" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/BigQuestions.jpg 766w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/BigQuestions-400x400.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/BigQuestions-150x150.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 694px) 100vw, 694px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>What I can tell you is that worthiness doesn’t exist in a vacuum.</p><p>We can and should work on telling ourselves that we’re worthy (and believing it). But beyond that, having someone validate your experience and say, “yes, that’s how this works,” will completely change your life.</p><p>That’s just one of the things people love about working with me.</p><p>I don’t have the answers. All I have is a deep certainty in the worthiness of us all.</p><p>What I know for sure is that YOU have those answers to these questions about yourself.</p><p>You always have.</p><p>All those things that you’ve always thought were wrong, or broken about you, that’s where your magic is.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-180867574a8"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4364" alt="Gif showing a man with curly hair and a moustache waving his fingers mystically with the caption &quot;Magic&quot;" data-id="4364" width="320" data-init-width="320" height="188" data-init-height="188" title="Magic" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Magic.gif" data-width="320" data-height="188"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Neurodiversity is not just a broad definition that encompasses ADHD, autism, and lifelong mental illness. It’s literally a difference in the way your neurons fire. It’s right there in the name.</p><p>Your brain makes connections that a neurotypical brain does not.</p><p>Sees things that an NT brain does not.</p><p>FEELS things that an NT brain does not.</p><p>And it’d be a fucking shame for that vision to go to waste.</p><p>But the first thing you have to do is reprogram your beliefs around how you think, and what you are worthy of.</p><p>Some of us are better at certain things than others.</p><p>That’s why I am so insistent about nurturing your village.</p><p>Because one thing you are worthy of is help.</p><p>You CAN ask for help.</p><p>And if you build it correctly, your village will become one of the foundations for everything you do in your life.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-1808675d10b"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4365" alt="Caption &quot;I keep hearing it takes a village to raise a child. Do they just show up, or is there a number to call?&quot;" data-id="4365" width="563" data-init-width="563" height="549" data-init-height="549" title="VillageRaiseChild" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/VillageRaiseChild.jpg" data-width="563" data-height="549" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/VillageRaiseChild.jpg 563w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/VillageRaiseChild-400x390.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/VillageRaiseChild-150x146.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 563px) 100vw, 563px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>And, just in case you needed a reminder, I build foundations.</p><p>Whether it’s habits like sleep, rest, or diet, to working with your neurochemistry, to finally getting some fucking discipline and planning shit, to building your village, I help you figure out what YOUR foundations are.</p><p>When you work with me, you’ll identify where your foundations need work, and what you need to do to actually fix the problem.</p><p>I’ll teach you ways to focus on your priorities, so that you’re actually paying attention to what matters, and letting go of everything else.</p><p>You’ll also learn how to work with your differences in a way that honors them, so that you can finally stop hiding, and be the person you really want to be.</p><p>Because I see you.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-180867626d4"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4367" alt="Tweet by om_eye_goodness which reads: &quot;Some lady messaged me and said I'm not a good mom because I probably feed my kids frozen dinosaur chicken nuggers and I was super offended because obviously i fucking cook them first.&quot;" data-id="4367" width="539" data-init-width="539" height="403" data-init-height="403" title="Tweet" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Tweet.jpg" data-width="539" data-height="403" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Tweet.jpg 539w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Tweet-400x299.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Tweet-150x112.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 539px) 100vw, 539px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>And you ARE worthy.</p><p>You are worthy of doing this work. And I promise you, it’ll change your life.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-1808676800d"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-4371" alt="Caption: &quot;Hmmm. I found a strange piece of plastic on the floor that looks like it broke off something, but I have no idea what. Better save it in the junk drawer until I die.&quot;" data-id="4371" width="694" data-init-width="750" height="472" data-init-height="510" title="PlasticOnFloor" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/PlasticOnFloor.jpg" data-width="694" data-height="472" srcset="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/PlasticOnFloor.jpg 750w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/PlasticOnFloor-400x272.jpg 400w, https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/PlasticOnFloor-150x102.jpg 150w" sizes="auto, (max-width: 694px) 100vw, 694px" /></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Listen, this newsletter was a lot, and I am not a licensed professional. If you need help discussing sexual assault, start with <a href="https://www.rainn.org/">RAINN</a>, at <strong>800-656-4673</strong>. Need help leaving domestic violence? Start with the <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/">National Domestic Violence Hotline</a>, at <strong>800-799-7233</strong>. International resources can be found <a href="https://evaw-global-database.unwomen.org/en/search?keywords=hotline&amp;pageNumber=1">here</a> and <a href="https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/national-global-organizations/international-organizations">here</a>. If you’re feeling suicidal, please contact the <a href="https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/">Suicide Prevention Lifeline</a>, at <strong>800-273-8255</strong>. Finally, if you just need someone, anyone to talk to, reach out to the <a href="https://www.crisistextline.org/">Crisis Text Line</a>, by texting <strong>HOME to 741741</strong>.</p><p>Thank you for being here with me. It is my honor and privilege.</p></div><div class="tcb_flag" style="display: none"></div>
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										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>What happens when the plan goes bad?<br><br>What do you do when you can't salvage things?<br><br>This is gonna take a minute, but I promise it's good.<br><br>A couple of weeks ago, Latchkey Movies recorded our review of Treasure Planet. And during my research, I dug up the story of its production, and it's stuck with me.<br><br>Plus, it's full of scandalous Disney gossip.<br><br>To tell this story though, we have to go back to its very beginning.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element"><h2 class="">The Gong Show</h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Animation at Disney in the early 80s was rough. The Nine Old Men were all retired, and Don Bluth had recently defected, taking a huge portion of the staff with him. The guys that were left were stuck trying to eke out projects that they actually wanted to work on, not another Goofy movie or Pete's Dragon.<br><br>Additionally, Michael Eisner and Jeffrey Katzenberg were newly at the helm, and their general disdain for Disney's animators is well known. They didn't want to make more animated movies, and they definitely didn't want to spend any money on them. The only person standing in the way was Roy Disney, Walt's nephew.<br><br>After the disastrous returns of The Black Cauldron in 1985, the animator's studio became downright despondent. And that's when Eisner and Katzenberg held their first Gong Show.<br><br>If you're not familiar with the show, then stop right now, and go look it up. The Gong Show was a variety show in the 70s hosted by Chuck Barris. Chuck was always clearly intoxicated AF, and by the end of the show, things had almost always devolved into utter hilarity. It was the 70s, y'all.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_custom_html_shortcode" data-css="tve-u-192ab6b2a04" style=""><iframe src="https://giphy.com/embed/xUA7b1prQJukwKW87u" width="480" height="350" style="" frameborder="0" class="giphy-embed" allowfullscreen=""></iframe><p><a href="https://giphy.com/gifs/vintage-70s-1970s-xUA7b1prQJukwKW87u"></a></p><div class="tve_iframe_cover"></div></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>But like everything else they touched, the Eisner/Katzenberg Gong Show became an incredibly divisive and antagonistic process. Animators would gear up for months to go to the Gong Show to pitch ideas. Hearing no at a pitch meeting isn't unusual. What was unusual was the way it was used to deliberately create competition.</p><p>In the days of The Nine Old Men, everyone took turns, writing, directing, being in charge. Because it takes years to animate a movie, this distribution of work allowed them to focus on the projects that were important to them, while ensuring the grunt work still got done, too.</p><p>But The Nine were long gone, and their successors had mostly quit or been forced out. The guys who were left were forced to compete for the crumbs from the Eisner table. If your pitch wasn't accepted, that meant grunt work, and with new technology emerging, it was grunt work on unfamiliar tech, on a movie you hated. Basically, it was an utter shit show.</p><p>For Ron Clements and John Musker, this Gong Show was an opportunity. Both were currently knee-deep in Basil of Baker Street, a disaster of a film that was supposed to be Sherlock Holmes as a mouse. By the time Eisner and Katzenberg were done with it, however, the budget has been reduced by over half, production schedule moved up an entire year, and as a final nail in the coffin, renamed to The Great Mouse Detective, because, and I quote, "the name Basil is too English." (It's so bad it didn't even make Latchkey's list of forgotten Disney films. Please, keep forgetting it.)</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf888cbcc" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3485 tcb-moved-image" alt="Basil Angrily Smoking a Pipe" data-id="3485" width="620" data-init-width="500" height="378" data-init-height="305" title="Basil Angrily Smoking a Pipe" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/BasilPipe.gif" data-width="620" data-height="378" style="aspect-ratio: auto 500 / 305;" data-css="tve-u-17bf888f2a8"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>This generated an interoffice memo suggesting that perhaps we should reevaluate some other names, like Seven Little Men Help a Girl, The Wonderful Elephant Who Could Really Fly, The Little Deer Who Grew Up, The Girl with the See-through Shoes, Two Dogs Fall in Love, Puppies Taken Away, and A Boy, a Bear and a Big Black Cat. Proof that office politics will always be office politics, regardless of the job description.</p><p>And so Clements and Musker carefully drafted their proposals for that first Gong Show, to include The Little Mermaid, and Treasure Island in Space. At which point story artist Pete Young flippantly suggested Oliver Twist, but with dogs.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<h2 class="">Tent Poles and PR Problems</h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Ostensibly, Eisner said no to The Little Mermaid because a Splash sequel was in development, and no to Treasure Island in Space, as Paramount Pictures' early drafts of what would become The Wrath of Khan had actual treasure, and not the Genesis device.<br><br>Oliver Twist with dogs it was. However, because the pitch came from a nobody story artist without clout, it was given to two of the junior animators, one of whom was fired six months into the project.<br><br>Eventually, both Tom Hanks and Daryl Hannah backed out of Splash Too, because...duh, and The Little Mermaid was given the green light. It went on to become both the literal and figurative tent pole of the Disney Renaissance, grossing over $233 million at the box office.<br><br>(And if you're not laughing at my tent pole joke, then you need to watch that movie again as an adult.)</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf8897ae1"><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3486 tcb-moved-image" alt="Ariel from the Little Mermaid Twirling and Swimming with Fish" data-id="3486" width="480" data-init-width="480" height="270" data-init-height="270" title="Little Mermaid" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/littlemermaid.gif" data-width="480" data-height="270" style="aspect-ratio: auto 480 / 270;" data-css="tve-u-17bf889aa5a"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Emboldened by their success with The Little Mermaid, Clements and Musker presented Treasure Island in Space a second time. Eisner didn't bite. Instead, he offered them a choice between Swan Lake, King of the Jungle (The Lion King), and Aladdin.<br><br>They chose Aladdin. The score was initially developed by Howard Ashman and Alan Menken. Linda Woolverton, the first woman to write an animated screenplay (Beauty and the Beast) developed the screenplay.<br><br>But Katzenberg hated it. He demanded the entire script be rewritten, without deviating from its scheduled release date—only 18 months away. Later, he changed the body double for Aladdin from Michael J. Fox to Tom Cruise, which was not a small change, and required a number of scenes to be reanimated entirely. He also stiffed Robin Williams out of several million dollars worth of pay, and lied about the usage of the Genie in promotional materials and merchandising rights, but it's fine. He sent him a Van Gogh as an apology. It's fine.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88ab740" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3487" alt="Genie from Aladdin with the Applause sign above his head" data-id="3487" width="620" data-init-width="500" height="373" data-init-height="301" title="Genie Applause" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/geniegif.gif" data-width="620" data-height="373" data-css="tve-u-17bf88aeb80" style="aspect-ratio: auto 500 / 301;"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>There was also a fairly significant dust-up with the Arab-American Anti-Defamation League about a line in a song about ear cutting, not to mention a fair bit of ire over lack of the cast diversity, plus, an overhyped allegation about kiddie porn (this one still gets trotted out by conspiracy folks as proof of Disney's Illuminati ties, and no, I'm not joking).</p><p>Despite these obstacles, Aladdin grossed over $500 million dollars. It is still the third highest-grossing traditionally animated film of all time.</p><p>So surely, now was the time for Treasure Island in Space?</p><p>Uh, no.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<h2 class="">The Intervention</h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>After Aladdin, Clements and Musker had some free time available before the next Gong Show. This is just conjecture on my part, but I truly think that they were led to believe that Treasure Island in Space was a done deal, because they spent nearly a year in development.</p><p>But Katzenberg turned them down again, and instructed them to take over production of Hercules.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88b4314" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3488" alt="Phil from Hercules Looking Despondent with the caption But I'm different than those other guys, Phil." data-id="3488" width="619" data-init-width="540" height="344" data-init-height="300" title="Phil from Hercules Looking Despondent" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/herculesphil.gif" data-width="619" data-height="344" data-css="tve-u-17bf88b6610" style="aspect-ratio: auto 540 / 300;"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>What happened next has never been fully disclosed, but we can make some educated guesses.<br><br>Because Roy Disney told Michael Eisner (very publicly) that he wanted to see Treasure Island in Space, and then he personally oversaw a seven-year contract extension for Clements and Musker to specifically include that film. So.<br><br>And, I think that's when things started to get really bad for this film, and possibly Disney Animation in general. I am quite certain that Eisner resented the interference and went out of his way to make things difficult.<br><br>Meanwhile, Hercules was having casting issues. See, the problem with hiring an all-star cast and then "accidentally" not paying them is that it made it hard for Disney to line up the actors they wanted. Danny DeVito turned them down twice before he finally agreed to play Phil, a character that was drawn FOR him. Jack Nicholson completely turned them down for Hades. So they hired John Lithgow, and then fired him nine months later. More than a dozen people read for the role before they opted to hire James Woods.<br><br>However, Woods' quick-talking, ad-libbed dialogue was difficult to animate. Seconds of him speaking took weeks to draw.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88bc8c8" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3489 tcb-moved-image" alt="Hades introducing himself with the caption Baboom. Name is Hades, lord of the dead." data-id="3489" width="620" data-init-width="500" height="348" data-init-height="281" title="Hades introducing himself" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/hades.gif" data-width="620" data-height="348" style="aspect-ratio: auto 500 / 281;" data-css="tve-u-17bf88be303"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Additionally, this particular animation style had never been done before. Remember, it was the late 90s. The tech still hadn't quite caught up with the vision, and the way these characters were drawn didn't allow for the reuse of old stills.</p><p>But surely, things were on the upswing, right?</p><p>Well, no.</p><p>Because we haven't even gotten to the Hercules' promotional tour. The one where the Greek government said "no, you can't air your revisionist history at the site of modern democracy, Pnix Hill, thanks." So that was embarrassing. Then there was the time the city of New York said, "absolutely, you can totally buy the city of New York for your parade and private party, regardless of how the people of New York feel about it." (We won't even get into the simultaneous technical employee strike from ABC and Disney, because, I mean...I'm sure it's not relevant.)</p><p>When it was all said and done, Hercules netted a very respectable $252 million, but it fell well short of its very lofty expectations.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<h2 class="">A Subdued Production</h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>NOW was finally the time for Treasure Planet in Space.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88c8ebb" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3490" alt="Jim Hawkins sitting in the rigging tying a knot" data-id="3490" width="620" data-init-width="500" height="446" data-init-height="360" title="Jim sitting in the rigging" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/jimstars.gif" data-width="620" data-height="446" data-css="tve-u-17bf88ca14d" style="aspect-ratio: auto 500 / 360;"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>At this point, almost a year's worth of initial planning had gone into film, although clearly, no effort had yet been made on the title.<br><br>Ted Elliot and Terry Rossio are both credited on the story, but it's unclear when their involvement ended. If I had to guess, it was probably only for the initial development in the year after Aladdin, because both writers moved on to other non-Disney projects. They didn't return until Pirates of the Caribbean.<br><br>But the only other writer was Rob Edwards, a decorated TV writer but film neophyte. The difference here is that a story credit is given when the writer contributes to the idea or early drafts. The screenplay credit is reserved for the final cut.<br><br>Is it possible that Clements and Musker suddenly became jealously protective of their work, desiring no outside influence? Sure.<br><br>However, if that were the case, I'd expect it to hold true long after Eisner and Katzenberg left Disney, as well. But I'm getting ahead of myself.<br><br>See, Katzenberg left the studio in 1994 and went on to help create Dreamworks (which is incredibly ironic, considering that Dreamworks Animation is Disney's biggest competitor).<br><br>Rumor has it that both Disney and Eisner were deeply concerned about how much credit Katzenberg was taking for the success of the Disney Renaissance, and when president Frank Wells was killed in a helicopter crash, Katzenberg lobbied Eisner for the empty position. Instead, they forced him out. (Unsurprisingly, Katzenberg blamed Hercules' lackluster returns on his absence. )<br><br>Nevertheless, early production efforts mostly involved taking a seafaring journey and converting it to outer space. Which they did with only passing thought to science. There's artificial gravity, but also apparently air. It's fine.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88cf3fd" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3491 tcb-moved-image" alt="Ship from Treasure Planet floating through space with sea creatures flying around it" data-id="3491" width="400" data-init-width="400" height="208" data-init-height="208" title="RLS Legacy floating in space" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/treasureplanetship.gif" data-width="400" data-height="208" style="aspect-ratio: auto 400 / 208;" data-css="tve-u-17bf88d2b11"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>They called this the 70/30 rule. 70% ships, 30% space. This is true for the social and cultural norms as well—it allows for a Captain Amelia Smollet, but it's clear that in her species, cats are female and dogs are male, which is...I don't even know.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88dbd38" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame" style=""><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3492 tcb-moved-image" alt="Captain Amelia and Dr Delbert talking with the caption With the greatest possible respect, zip your howling screamer" data-id="3492" width="620" data-init-width="500" height="273" data-init-height="220" title="Captain Amelia Howling Screamer Quote" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/captainzipyourhowling.gif" data-width="620" data-height="273" data-css="tve-u-17bf88ddae8" style="aspect-ratio: auto 500 / 220;" ml-d="0"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>And, with the move to the new Animation Studio building, animators found themselves increasingly siloed. There weren't any big open spaces for people to gather and cowork (a problem that wasn't rectified until 2016). It's not that Clements and Musker were feeling territorial, but rather, they were practically isolated.<br><br>Even if that weren't the case, I also suspect that this movie was a bit of a hot potato—on the inside, it's pretty likely that everyone knew all the salacious details of what it took to get this film made, and no one wanted to be tarred with the same brush as Clements and Musker. Eisner was still the boss, even if everyone hated him.<br><br>And so no one told them that it was probably a bad idea to take the boy of Treasure Island and turn him into a moody teenager. That's certainly what Terry Rossio considered to be the problem, blogging about it at length many years later.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88e584e" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3493" alt="Jim Hawkins watching Silver tell stories with shadows" data-id="3493" width="620" data-init-width="640" height="349" data-init-height="360" title="Jim watching Silver Telling shadow stories" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/jimwatchingshadows.gif" data-width="620" data-height="349" data-css="tve-u-17bf88e7a1d" style="aspect-ratio: auto 640 / 360;"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Actual animation didn't begin until 2000, with artists suffering from the same lack of collaboration the writers faced. But there were other, more serious problems.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<h2 class="">The Death of Traditional Animation</h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>The problem with hand drawn animation is one of scope. It either takes a tremendous amount of time, or a very large production team of very skilled artists working together.</p><p>After 20 years of being kicked around the country like a redheaded stepchild, Disney's animators were tired. Wages were frequently below industry minimums, the technical staff was regularly farmed out to live-action productions, and new technology was emerging so fast that no one could keep up.</p><p>One of those experiments took place at The Secret Lab. (I'm just saying, sometimes Disney deserves its nefarious reputation.) The Secret Lab was a sound production studio that, for one brief moment, was home to its computer animation studio. The result was a film called Dinosaur. It was not a critical success, but by all measures, it was a commercial one, bringing in a little under $350 million.</p><p>Meanwhile, the release of Roy Disney's longtime pet project Fantasia 2000 just a few months before had yielded lackluster results—it made less than it cost.</p><p>And then, there was our old frenemy Katzenberg, and our new frenemy, Pixar. The relationship between Disney and Pixar is incredibly complicated, but at this point, contract negotiations with Eisner had completely fallen apart, and Pixar had severed ties with its parent studio when it released Monsters, Inc. That was 577 million dollhairs he felt entitled to. And then there was Dreamworks' Shrek, a very nice $487 million paycheck that also didn't belong to Michael Eisner.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88eeaed" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3494" alt="Boo from Monsters Inc Roaring" data-id="3494" width="620" data-init-width="498" height="339" data-init-height="272" title="Boo from Monsters Inc Roaring" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/boomonstersinc.gif" data-width="620" data-height="339" data-css="tve-u-17bf88f0be3" style="aspect-ratio: auto 498 / 272;"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>I mean, what's a CEO to do? Nothing for it but to downsize, and to focus remaining production efforts on computer animation going forward.</p><p>The remaining traditional animators were then forced to divide their time between Treasure Planet and Home on the Range.</p><p>One of the things that Sara and I often talk about on the podcast is the difference between drawing people and animals. Artists will tell you that they are functionally very different things to draw. Small wonder then that so many of Treasure Planet's characters became animal in nature.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88f55be" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3495" alt="Dr Delbert with the Quote I mean I am a doctor, but not that kind of doctor" data-id="3495" width="620" data-init-width="450" height="369" data-init-height="268" title="Dr Delbert Not That Kind of Doctor" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/notthatkindofdoctor.gif" data-width="620" data-height="369" data-css="tve-u-17bf88f7ac4" style="aspect-ratio: auto 450 / 268;"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<h2 class="">When Everybody Hates You</h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>I mean, hate may be a strong word. Frankly, strong indifference might be more apt.</p><p>So, we'll take the emotion out of it.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf88ffa32" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3496" alt="Captain Amelia standing on deck with Dr Delbert flying past and the quote Brace Yourself" data-id="3496" width="401" data-init-width="401" height="236" data-init-height="236" title="Captain Amelia Brace Yourself" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/braceyourself.gif" data-width="401" data-height="236" style="aspect-ratio: auto 401 / 236;"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Treasure Planet was released November 27th, 2002. The weekend after Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, and Die Another Day. Despite being the first feature film to be simultaneously released on IMAX, it came in 4th that weekend. Behind not just Harry and James Bond, but also the Tim Allen in a fat suit sequel, Santa Clause 2. It made just $12 million that first weekend.</p><p>Box office totals were $109.6 million, from a total production cost of $140 million, leading to a 9% stock drop for Disney, and a $74 million write-down. It's since become known as one of the most expensive box office flops of all time.</p><p>After spending 15 years of your life fighting for an idea that it turns out everybody hated, one could become pretty despondent.</p><p>With the planned sequel for Treasure Planet canceled, Clements and Musker inherited a project called Fraidy Cat. But Disney was done. No one would greenlight a traditional animation project. They resigned in September 2005.</p><p>Meanwhile, the wrangling between Roy Disney and Michael Eisner finally reached a conclusion. Eisner was forced to resign his role in late 2004, and served his last day on September 30th, 2005.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<h2 class="">A Victorious Return</h2></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>Less than six months later, Pixar's John Lasseter would inherit the Animator's Studio as Chief Creative Officer, and he called Clements and Musker back for a revival of traditional animation.</p><p>That film would become The Princess and the Frog, a masterful blend of hand-drawn and computer animation. Not to mention the introduction of the first African-American Princess.</p><p>Their next film was Moana. (It grossed $690 million worldwide, and has a Rotten Tomatoes rating of 95%. It earned more awards and nominations than I can count. I think we can call it a success.)</p><p>And, more than 3k words later, here's where we loop back around to the point of all of this.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf890a2d8" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3497 tcb-moved-image" alt="Maui from Moana with the quote You're Welcome" data-id="3497" width="620" data-init-width="500" height="259" data-init-height="209" title="You're Welcome Moana" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/yourewelcomemoana.gif" data-width="620" data-height="259" style="aspect-ratio: auto 500 / 209;" data-css="tve-u-17bf890b3cd"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>The question I asked was, what happens when things go wrong? What happens when you can't salvage something?</p><p>And the answer clearly is, you keep fucking going.</p><p>You take the knocks, and you get back up.</p><p>You continue to find ways to do the work that matters to you.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf8910bdd" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3498" alt="John Silver looking down with the quote You give up a few things, chasing a dream" data-id="3498" width="620" data-init-width="500" height="367" data-init-height="296" title="John Silver Chasing a Dream" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/chasingadream.gif" data-width="620" data-height="367" data-css="tve-u-17bf8912575" style="aspect-ratio: auto 500 / 296;"></span></div><div class="thrv_wrapper thrv_text_element">	<p>For Ron Clements and John Musker, it was always about telling the story.</p><p>Because what do Aladdin and Ariel and Jim Hawkins and Moana and Tiana have in common?</p><p>Almost all of their films center the underdog.</p><p>These are the movies for the kids who don't fit in.</p><p>Long before it was cool, Clements and Musker were telling stories of diversity and inclusion.</p><p>They were teaching our children about what it means to believe in something, and how to follow your dreams. They were teaching us what really matters. These films are foundational for not one, but two generations now. They've taught us to be better people. These aren't the Disney princess of old.</p><p>And we should take that lesson not just from the stories they tell, but from their example.</p><p>To getting back up.</p></div><div class="thrv_wrapper tve_image_caption" data-css="tve-u-17bf89148c5" style=""><span class="tve_image_frame"><img decoding="async" class="tve_image wp-image-3499" alt="John Silver standing against a backdrop of stars with the quote; I hope I'm there, catching some of the light coming off you that day." data-id="3499" width="620" data-init-width="540" height="459" data-init-height="400" title="John Silver Hope I'm There" loading="lazy" src="https://briarharvey.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/hopeimthere.gif" data-width="620" data-height="459" data-css="tve-u-17bf8916bc0" style="aspect-ratio: auto 540 / 400;"></span></div><div class="tcb_flag" style="display: none"></div>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Apr 2021 19:33:38 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Earlier this month I sat down with Meaghan Lamm (the host of Feminist Visionaries Podcast) to talk about the corrosive effects of performative marketing on your brand, your clients, and your team.  Because, like a whole host of dubious things, performative marketing often starts from within. Inside your company&#8217;s culture, burrowing into your message, and...]]></description>
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<p class="wp-block-paragraph">Earlier this month I sat down with <strong>Meaghan Lamm</strong> (the host of <a href="https://www.inspiredsolutionsco.com/behind-the-scenes-of-performative-marketing-with-briar-harvey">Feminist Visionaries Podcast</a>) to talk about the corrosive effects of <strong>performative marketing</strong> on your brand, your clients, and your team. </p>
<p>Because, like a whole host of dubious things,<em> performative marketing often starts from within</em>. Inside your company&#8217;s culture, burrowing into your message, and affecting how you present yourself to the world.</p>
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<p class="wp-block-paragraph">In this episode, we&#8217;ll cover: </p>
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<p class="wp-block-paragraph"><img decoding="async" role="img" class="emoji" alt="&#x2714;" src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/13.0.1/svg/2714.svg">How to handle when you get called out in the online space</p>
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		<title>On stepping back from social media</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 16 Apr 2021 09:45:00 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I doomscroll. A lot. I spend so much time clutching my phone that my hands ache, and my hands are already terribly arthritic. I open and close multiple apps looking for a distraction from my brain at all hours of the day. ]]></description>
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<p>Tl;dr: pretend this is an airport, because the train is leaving the woods. Or something like that.</p>
<p>I went camping Easter weekend.</p>
<p>Early spring and late autumn camping are an art unto themselves. The sun sets early, and it’s cold AF at night.</p>
<p>If you’ve never been, tent camping is a surprising amount of work. There’s the setup, the making camp habitable, food prep, clean up, all at a reasonable hour.</p>
<p><em>(There’s also sleeping on air mattresses with a bad back, but we won’t discuss that part.)</em></p>
<p>We do it, because of the endless blue sky. Because of the great stretches of listening to the breeze through the trees. Because it’s worth the time to be alone with your thoughts.</p>
<h3>But even out in the middle of nowhere, I am still in the world.</h3>
<p>Partially, that&#8217;s my own personal anxiety. The sky feels like it&#8217;s falling a lot of the time, and as a marginalized person, I do not have the luxury of ignoring the news entirely.</p>
<p><strong>But I also realized while I was out that a much bigger part of it was just compulsive checking of social media.</strong></p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been down this road before. In 2016, a couple of years after the death of my son, I quit social media entirely, for over a year. But then I allowed myself Reddit, and it wasn&#8217;t long before I decided to start a new Facebook account for business purposes.</p>
<p>And while I will never discount the value of a clean slate, the habits I thought I&#8217;d broken in my time away have slowly crept back in, especially in the insanity that has been the last year.</p>
<p><strong>I doomscroll.</strong> A lot. I spend so much time clutching my phone that my hands ache, and my hands are already terribly arthritic. I open and close multiple apps looking for a distraction from my brain at all hours of the day.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve given myself a lot of grace for this, because grace is the only way through these sorts of life-altering circumstances. The act of self-kindness is a requirement for growth.</p>
<p>Looking at your life as a dispassionate observer allows you to see habits and patterns without judgment. A lack of judgment allows you to assess the best methods for changing those patterns without treating yourself like a dismal failure.</p>
<h3>Because growth through shame and self-flagellation isn&#8217;t growth at all. It&#8217;s just a temporary change. And it rarely if ever sticks around.</h3>
<p>We are all a work in progress. And I truly do think most of us are doing the work.</p>
<p>So in the name of doing my own work, last month I enrolled in <strong>Alexandra Franzen&#8217;s Marketing Without Social Media course</strong>.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ll be honest—for me personally, there is no new information here. I&#8217;ve been in marketing since before there was internet marketing, and I know how to do it. That&#8217;s not why I joined.</p>
<p>What I wanted was the accountability. Personal outreach is hard. It takes courage. And being able to do hard things surrounded by other people doing the same hard things is a gift.</p>
<p>What I didn&#8217;t expect was how much I would have to examine my social media habits, and this has indeed been illuminating.</p>
<p>I have always been addicted to metrics, and time tracking is no exception. I&#8217;ve been using Rescue Time for almost a decade. I know how much time I spend on social media. It&#8217;s a lot. And for the last couple of years, I&#8217;ve excused it because it makes me money.</p>
<h3>But lately I&#8217;ve been rethinking this.</h3>
<p>I&#8217;ll spare you the specific details of my cost-benefit analysis, but I did in fact do one.</p>
<p>And it turns out, as in most things, the 80/20 rule definitely applies to my social time too. 80% of my social media time is a waste of time. And that&#8217;s a lot of minutes a day that I could be devoting to other things.</p>
<p>But honestly?</p>
<p>That&#8217;s not even what tipped me over the edge.</p>
<p><strong>It was Rachel Hollis.</strong></p>
<p>See, despite the many minutes spent doomscrolling, I am already incredibly discerning with my social media time. I don&#8217;t use TikTok, Twitter, Instagram. I&#8217;ve said no to far more platforms than I&#8217;ve ever said yes to.</p>
<p>I also regularly tune out celebrities and influencers, because if I have only one goal in life, it is to choose joy. And I think we all know by now that money doesn&#8217;t buy happiness. Just security, and sometimes, not even that.</p>
<p>And I knew within five pages of her first book that Rachel Hollis would NEVER be for me. As I said before, I do not find shame to be personally motivating, and that&#8217;s basically the essence of her brand. Huge helpings of shame, for other people definitely, but especially for herself.</p>
<p>As a result, I simply haven&#8217;t engaged with her content in any meaningful way since. Because I am a semi-professional internet snarker, I&#8217;m certainly aware of her. None of her scandals surprise me, nor do the words out of her mouth, because she is the very definition of a celebrity influencer, and everything she does is cultivated to craft her image.</p>
<p>But the thing is&#8230;it doesn&#8217;t matter what you personally think of her. <img decoding="async" role="img" src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/13.0.1/svg/1f937-1f3fd-200d-2640-fe0f.svg" alt="img role="img" alt="&#x1f937;&#x1f3fd;&#x200d;&#x2640;" src="https://s.w.org/images/core/emoji/13.0.1/svg/1f937-1f3fd-200d-2640-fe0f.svg"" width="20" height="20" /></p>
<p><strong>No matter how many people cancel her, she will continue to have an audience, because negative attention is still attention.</strong></p>
<p>And these days, it seems that one of the most controversial opinions you can have is to have no opinion at all.</p>
<h3>I went to the woods, and still I checked social media.</h3>
<p>And in those moments, what I saw in my feed was nothing but Rachel Hollis.</p>
<p>You know what I didn&#8217;t see?</p>
<p>Not one single mention of the attempted coup in Jordan. No mention of the ongoing farce of Matt Gaetz. Absolutely no word about all the dead people in China (there was a train crash, but I will forever be salty about how little we collectively seem to care about the apparent genocide of the Uighurs).</p>
<p>A friend made a snide remark about the ongoing coup in Myanmar and I was grateful, because otherwise, this rant would have been much uglier.</p>
<p>And the thing is, it&#8217;s not really about Rachel Hollis. In fact, I would prefer to think of her as little as possible.</p>
<p>Nor is it about whether or not people feel obligated to have an opinion. And having an opinion matters—it&#8217;s one of our most sacred rights, to speak, or not.</p>
<p>No, this right here is about my own consumption.</p>
<h3>The problem with social media is that it turns nearly all of us into consumers.</h3>
<p>It starts out fairly innocuous. Connect with your friends. Make new ones.</p>
<p>And I would be a huge hypocrite to say that those things have not been true for me, in incredibly meaningful ways, over the years.</p>
<p><strong>However, as with all things, it&#8217;s easier to consume than create.</strong></p>
<p>Social media makes that consumption deliberately addictive.</p>
<p>It cultivates our FOMO, breeds it like rabbits, and encourages habits that can easily turn into paranoia, groupthink, and echo chambers.</p>
<p>And while you can&#8217;t entirely blame a product for doing its job, we can and should consider the long term effects of our consumption in our own lives.</p>
<p>In the short term, I&#8217;ve removed everything but Messenger, Marco Polo, and Clubhouse from my phone, and I&#8217;ve created strict limits around when and where I interact with social media on my computer. I&#8217;ve also got several extensions (Kill Newsfeed and Go Fucking Work are some of my favorites) that help me from running off after every shiny internet object that comes my way. I&#8217;m not ashamed to admit when I need help.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m also not ashamed to admit that, like a damn addict, I still sneak Facebook on my phone browser. It doesn&#8217;t work well, and I can&#8217;t use GIFs, which is my only saving grace, really.</p>
<p>The truth is that I&#8217;m not quitting social media entirely, and I don&#8217;t want to. It&#8217;s still the place I go when I want to network and find new connections. It&#8217;s where I go to share what I&#8217;ve created.</p>
<h3>And I want to create beautiful things.</h3>
<p>I want to use the canvas of my life with intention, to build things that matter, and share them with incredible people. But that&#8217;s much more difficult to do when some part of my mind is thinking about how many notifications I have to deal with now.</p>
<p><strong>However, I feel certain that there is a way to use social media mindfully, without getting rid of it entirely.</strong></p>
<p>I don&#8217;t like all or nothing solutions.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m a big believer in both, and.</p>
<p>I want both deep work <em>and</em> social media.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;m asking for a lot.</p>
<p>But it sure does feel like it, sometimes.</p>
<p>So, I&#8217;m stepping back, but not away.</p>
<p>Posting less, unless it&#8217;s scheduled.</p>
<p><strong>Less doomscrolling. More genuine connection.</strong></p>
<p>We&#8217;ll see what happens.</p>
<p><strong>Thanks for coming on this journey with me.</strong></p>
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